Working with Trauma and Its Aftermath:

Healing from painful relationships

Do any of these questions sound familiar:  How can someone who said he/she loved me do this? Why did I pick this abusive partner, or stay for so long?  Did he/she ever love me?  What does this say about me?

I help people heal trauma experienced in relationships – the terribly painful, and often covered-up experiences with loved ones that leave us asking questions like these.  Trauma like this can also lead to confusion, rage, guilt, sadness, shame, and an assortment of other difficult emotions.  Or it can leave us feeling numb.

 

Call (512) 231-0164 to schedule an appointment.

What is trauma exactly?  

Trauma can occur when something happens that overwhelms our emotions or threatens our life, body or sanity. The event could be neglect or abuse experienced as a child, an abusive relationship during adulthood, sexual assault, or infidelity or other betrayal.

 

Perhaps you are not sure if you have been traumatized. You may, however, recognize some of trauma’s symptoms: 

  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Irritability
  • Substance abuse
  • Eating disorders
  • Self-destructive behaviors
  • Self-hatred
  • Decreased concentration
  • Hyper-vigilance

It is my opinion that all those symptoms deserve respect, as they often serve as survival strategies.  

More About What Counseling Offers:

I work with adults ages 18 and up, and I believe my clients should always set the agenda and the pace of counseling.  That said, trauma counseling often includes:

  • Education about trauma and how it affects us
  • Processing and releasing difficult emotions
  • Identifying and working with triggers
  • Helping partners and loved ones understand your experience 
  • Learning to live with greater joy, spontaneity and creativity

My approach honors the mind-body connection and explores not only emotions and thoughts, but also physical sensations, because the body sends us critical information about our inner experience. I integrate sensorimotor psychotherapy, internal family systems, and redecision therapy.  I am also Level 1 certified in iRest, a treatment method for trauma developed by psychologist Dr. Richard Miller.  I have completed 200 hours of hatha yoga training and am a devoted yoga practitioner.

Here are some books I love and recommend:

  • The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk
  • The Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner 
  • The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse by Ellen Bass & Laura Davis
  • Daring Greatly by Brené Brown
  • Wired for Love by Stan Tatkin
  • Wherever You Go There You Are by Jon Kabat-Zinn
  • The Artist’s Way: A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity by Julia Cameron